I’d like to share with you a respond to online dating.
The following is a message I received from a very dear friend of mine….
“A long time people have complained that it is very difficult to find the ideal person to have a serious relationship, and now with the run the day-to-day, find a boyfriend or girlfriend still gets more difficult. That is why the solution for anyone who wants to end the solitude ends up being the Internet.
I believe in the “E-Love”. The Internet was the most fantastic invention that provided to people from around the world to instantly communicate.
You can fall in love and have a relationship with a person who knows the Internet. The only problem may be the distance.
I even fell in love with an Italian. We started talking, we learn, laugh, have fun, exchange confidences and experiences, until she got a great feeling. But I had a life here and could not leave everything to be with her, unfortunately.
Here in Brazil, people use the networking site ORKUT with the intention of meeting their future boyfriends or girlfriends. I even created a fotolog that became popular in Brazil from 2003 to 2007 (www.fotolog.com / lindas_sc) Girls singles who wanted a boyfriend.
Through this simple fotolog, people met and began relationships. There was even a fact that a friend of mine that I posted, she met a guy and started dating. Last year, they married and I was invited to be the godfather.
The fact is that people just want to meet someone to love. They just want to know your other half. And the Internet today is the best way for you to meet people nowadays.”
I have to confess, am one of the very few in the human population, it seems, that would never, I mean not under any circumstances, would enjoy being the victim of a practical joke; or would I ever put anyone through such a horrible, unnecessary experience. To be honest, I do not see the humour (well in most cases) in a prank… and yes, I do have a sense of humour.
Personally, I have never experienced the torture of a prank; not my kind of excitement or entertainment really. However, I have witnessed many and I have to say there are some quite satirical and fun, and several bad and vindictive.
You ask what’s bad and vindictive, well my friend, see video below….
That my friend is not witty, it is down right sadistic!
However, there are some quircky pranks that I have certainly enjoyed and almost feel guilty to admit. Well, they do say a harmless prank is a good prank….
Now, that young lady has the ability to take a joke…. very well handled indeed!!!!
Times have changed, and as we all know the Internet has created new ways of human interaction through social networking sites, instant messaging and Internet forums. It could be the reason why most of us no longer think dating is an unusual way to meet a prospective new romantic partner. After all, millions of potential mates are just a click away.
Yes, the Internet does allow us to make contact and communicate with one another. We now have the opportunity to make friends with incredible people around the world and even become closer to former acquaintances.
I have definitely made friends online, which am grateful for. I am experiencing different cultures, different believes, different lifestyles that otherwise I might not have. These are people that I admire and consider myself very lucky to have met.
However, online dating, in my books, is far from a realistic life experience. How can a romantic relationship become, if not lived in the real world with real distractions. What about a person’s mannerisms, flaws…. Even in regular circumstances, physical chemistry, regardless of looks, is an important part of a relationship. Can those characteristics be seen online along with the sweet notions?
Let’s face it, online dating is nowhere near an in person encounter. Well, what I’m trying to say is, it’s the everyday life experience, whether good or bad, which in this case keeps you apart. Online you’re focused on that certain someone; meaning you could be falling in love with an online persona, in which case, expectations can lead to great disappointment.
While finding a mate online for some people is the only way, the concept of love may not be as concrete as it appears. People need an anticipated face to face meeting to see their many ’profiles’ whether it’s their best or worst, not just the best one they want to put forward.
The environment of the Internet is a temptation, which I believe, certain individuals need to simply feel in control of their future; no matter of the potential risks and agonizing experience.
Moreover, how deep can lovers be online? The build up of excitement can at times make people say things they don’t mean and later realize they don’t actually feel that way at all. Talk about getting your feelings, behaviours and time spent in a relationship out of sync. Very unrealistic feelings, if you ask me.
Love is a natural drive as powerful as life itself. Romance usually implies an expression of one’s love, or one’s emotional desires to connect with another person. The real danger of Internet dating is harmful and will creep up on you before you know it and may be trapped by the illusion.
Has old fashioned dating become so unfamiliar that we are now willing to live without all those interesting person to person experience, without that first meeting, without the impulsiveness? I will never forget the night I met my husband, but most of all I will never forget the way he first looked at me, his eyes said it all; and our storyline, is one I often share with our kids.
Once again, it is a wonderful way for people to connect with other who share same interests. As for a romantic relationship, I strongly believe it requires much more attention and satisfaction than just turning a computer on! To me, such quick and accessible intimacy doesn’t seem real or in some cases normal.
Though being a long time skeptic on this matter, I do have to say, every situation is different.
Saint Valentine’s Day (commonly shortened to Valentine’s Day) is an annual holiday held on February 14 celebrating love and affection between intimate companions. The holiday is named after one or more early Christian martyrs named Valentine and was established by Pope Gelasius I in AD 496. It is traditionally a day on which lovers express their love for each other…
I, on the other hand, believe the love between two people should not be subjected to just one day of the year, but celebrated every day! Frankly, the thought of acting on such affection only once a year is terrifying. They say it takes a minute to find a special person, an hour to appreciate them, a day to love them, but then an entire life to forget them….
Two friends were walking through the desert and during some time of the journey, they had an argument; and one friend slapped the other one in the face.
The one who got slapped was hurt, but without saying anything, wrote in the sand, “Today my best friend slapped me in the face!”
They kept on walking, until they found an oasis, where they decided to take a bath….
The one who had been slapped, got stuck in the mire! and started drowning, but the friend saved him.
After he recovered from the near drowning, he wrote on a stone, “Today my friend saved my life!”
The friend who had slapped and saved his best friend, asked him, “After I hurt you, you wrote in the sand and now, you write on a stone, why?”
The friend replied, “When someone hurts us we should write it down in sand, where winds of forgiveness can erase it away. But, when someone does something good for us, we must engrave it in stone where no wind can ever erase it.”
Learn to write your hurts in the sand and to carve your benefits in stone.
I personally, do not believe we have to wait for the first day of January for a new resolution. Each day is a new beginning, it is a new smile, a new tear, a new laughter, a new sorrow. A life change is a commitment that an individual should make when appropriate! No reason to wait for the new year to get it right, take the chance now, and rise above the little things…
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A young and successful executive was traveling down a neighborhood street. going a bit too fast in his new Jaguar. He was watching for kids darting out from between parked cars and slowed down when he thought he saw something.
As his car passed, no children appeared. Instead, a brick smashed into the Jaguar’s side door! He slammed on the brakes and backed the car back to the spot where the brick had be thrown.
The angry driver then jumped out of the car, grabbed the nearest kid and pushed him up against a parked car shouting…’What was that all about, and who are you? Just what the heck are you doing? That’s a new and that brick you threw is going to cost a lot of money. Why did you do it?’
The young boy was apologetic…’Please, mister please, I’m sorry but I didn’t know what else to do!’ he pleaded. ‘I threw the brick because no one else would stop.’ With tears dripping down his face and off his chin, the youth pointed to a spot just around a parked car.
‘It’s my brother’ he said, ‘he rolled off the curb and fell out of his wheelchair and I can not lift him up.’ Now sobbing, the boy asked the stunned executive, ‘Would you please, help me get him back into his wheelchair? He’s hurt and too heavy for me to lift.’
Moved beyond words, the driver tried to swallow the rapidly swelling lump in his throat. He hurriedly lifted the handicapped boy back into the wheelchair, then took out a linen handkerchief and dabbed at the fresh scrapes and cuts. A quick look told him everything was going, to be okay.
‘Thank you and may God bless you,’ the grateful child told the stranger. Too shook up for words, the man simply watched the boy push his wheelchair bound brother down the sidewalk toward their home!
It was a long, slow walk back to the Jaguar. The damage was very noticeable, but the driver never bothered to repair the dented side door. He kept the dent there to remind him of this message:
‘Don’t go through life so fast, that someone has to throw a brick at you to get your attention.’
